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Be your own yeasayer.

Life is beautiful when you have people who are willing to travel the life journey with you, people who believe in you and support you to achieve heights for yourself. The security that comes with knowing that you have someone to rely on is epic. Unfortunately, not everyone gets that, especially from the people he or she needs it from the most.

K is the one of the closest if not the closest person I have had in so many years. Of all the years I have known him, he has never said anything positive to me (maybe that’s a little exaggerated but I can’t remember a positive word he has ever altered to me, ever).

K is usually very optimistic, so I can only safely conclude that he wasn’t being negative. He was clearly stating that he actually didn’t see anything good in me.

I love photography and graphics. I told him I wanted to learn photography and he gave me one hell of a laugh and that erased that desire with striking effects. I want to learn how to use Photoshop for edits and designs. “Afiya, you can’t do this. Don’t worry yourself. It’s not as easy as it looks. Even men have failed.” he calmly explained his reality to me. You should have seen the disgust on his face when I told him I wanted to be a model. I can only imagine the thoughts that were running through his head.

Regardless of his apparent unbelief in me and my potentials, I know he loves me.

I am his number one confidant and he holds my words in high esteem so it was easy to discourage him as much as he did to me. I rather do otherwise, although it’s painful sometimes not to do same to him. I make sure I am as supportive yet realistic and truthful as I can be towards him. I believe in him and I let him know that I do.

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In your journey through life, not everyone will root for you and believe in you but trust me when I say, it’s perfectly okay. Not everyone will understand your dream. Not everyone will catch the vision.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s your spouse, a parent, a sibling or a dearly beloved, they might just be blinded to your capabilities and potentials and that is okay.
Believe in God and in yourself and don’t let them project their fear in you. If it’s the decision of a career, a relationship, etc, believe and trust in yourself enough to pursue your happiness (if God wills) and shun the naysayers.

Be your “yeasayer”. Never allow yourself to be the naysayer of your own life.

There is great joy in doing what you love. Let your happiness be paramount to you. Do life big. Explore. Try and fail. Do it. Stop because you decide to stop not because they said so. At the end of the day, you are responsible for making yourself happy and doing good for yourself.

The year is almost over but it’s not too late to start something new. It’s not too late to pursue happiness. Begin now. I will be here cheering you on. You’ve got this.

Find your niche and pursue it. Find people who believe in you and your dream and stick to them.

While at it, remember to support and build others. You were wired for greatness. Believe it and achieve it.

Happy new month y’all. May December bring glad tidings.

With love,
Afiya.