As we journey through life we get experiences, some of which need forgetting and letting go in order to move on with life.
Often times when we talk about letting go, our minds quickly shift to situations or experiences that were heartbreaking and emotionally damaging. Ones that caused us pain and needed forgiving and forgetting.
It is good, we have to move on from the painful past experience. We have to take out the lessons we can from those experiences and let go. Those, however, are not the only situations letting go should be ”applied”.
Here are other instances where you need to let go;
1. I don’t know what title to give this but let me elaborate.
My first love was heavenly. It’s been years since we parted ways. I let go of the pain and hurt of the relationship and forgave myself. What I could not let go was the idea of who he was. I held on to it and for a long time looked for him in everyone I met after him. He was tender and I wanted that in everyone else. You get what I am trying to communicate right? Let go of that. Let go.
2. Let go of how they made you feel.
There is a saying that people might forget what you said but never how you made them feel. I agree and believe this to be true. Long after we have parted ways with people, we still remember how they made us feel. If you want to move on and let go, you must be willing to let go of how they made you feel. If it was bad, you should forgive. If it was good, you need to be willing to stop holding on to it. You don’t necessarily have to forget but do not make that affect your decisions. Let go.
3. Let go of your perception formed.
People change. Change is inevitable. When change happens, learn to accept it. Be willing to leave room for people to change and to evolve. The me you knew two or three years ago isn’t the same me now, you can not hold me to her and judge me by her. She is gone. It’s two-sided. If the person changed for the better, be willing to let go of the old person, they deserve the benefit of a doubt. If they change for worse, believe it and do not justify things with who they were. Live acknowledging the possibility of change.
4. Let go of expectations.
Expectations are good, great actually. In as much as you have expectations of people, try as much not to hold them to it. Communicate your expectations but do not force it on people. As much as possible lower them. Life is a lot easier if you do not expect too much of people.
5. Let go of how experiences have made you (the old way of thinking about yourself and the world).
As we live, experiences will make us form ideologies and theories that we live by. Be it how we see ourselves and how we relate to people. It can be how our general view of life is. In letting go, we should be ready to let go of negative and toxic images and ideas we have formed.
Living life as peacefully and happily doesn’t come easy, letting go is a vital part of it and it does not come easy as well. It’s hard but you can do it. You can let go of the bad things that people have done to you, you can let go of your pain and hurt and you can let go of anything and everything you want to.
I pray that as we live this year in its fullness, we let go of anything that doesn’t serve our purpose currently so we can be better and live right and healthy.
In What other ways do you think you can practice the art of letting go? Leave a comment.