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As we journey through life we get experiences, some of which need forgetting and letting go in order to move on with life.

Often times when we talk about letting go, our minds quickly shift to situations or experiences that were heartbreaking and emotionally damaging. Ones that caused us pain and needed forgiving and forgetting.

It is good, we have to move on from the painful past experience. We have to take out the lessons we can from those experiences and let go. Those, however, are not the only situations letting go should be ”applied”.

Here are other instances where you need to let go;


1. I don’t know what title to give this but let me elaborate.

My first love was heavenly. It’s been years since we parted ways. I let go of the pain and hurt of the relationship and forgave myself. What I could not let go was the idea of who he was. I held on to it and for a long time looked for him in everyone I met after him. He was tender and I wanted that in everyone else. You get what I am trying to communicate right? Let go of that. Let go.


2. Let go of how they made you feel.

There is a saying that people might forget what you said but never how you made them feel. I agree and believe this to be true. Long after we have parted ways with people, we still remember how they made us feel.  If you want to move on and let go, you must be willing to let go of how they made you feel. If it was bad, you should forgive. If it was good, you need to be willing to stop holding on to it. You don’t necessarily have to forget but do not make that affect your decisions. Let go.


3. Let go of your perception formed.

People change. Change is inevitable. When change happens, learn to accept it. Be willing to leave room for people to change and to evolve. The me you knew two or three years ago isn’t the same me now, you can not hold me to her and judge me by her. She is gone. It’s two-sided. If the person changed for the better, be willing to let go of the old person, they deserve the benefit of a doubt. If they change for worse, believe it and do not justify things with who they were. Live acknowledging the possibility of change.


4. Let go of expectations.

Expectations are good, great actually. In as much as you have expectations of people, try as much not to hold them to it. Communicate your expectations but do not force it on people. As much as possible lower them. Life is a lot easier if you do not expect too much of people.


5. Let go of how experiences have made you (the old way of thinking about yourself and the world).

As we live, experiences will make us form ideologies and theories that we live by. Be it how we see ourselves and how we relate to people. It can be how our general view of life is. In letting go, we should be ready to let go of negative and toxic images and ideas we have formed.


Living life as peacefully and happily doesn’t come easy, letting go is a vital part of it and it does not come easy as well. It’s hard but you can do it. You can let go of the bad things that people have done to you, you can let go of your pain and hurt and you can let go of anything and everything you want to.

I pray that as we live this year in its fullness, we let go of anything that doesn’t serve our purpose currently so we can be better and live right and healthy.

In What other ways do you think you can practice the art of letting go? Leave a comment.

Your girl,


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  4. Bosede Luyomi

    Thank you for another “REAL” article. I love how you broke it down to instances, making it so much easier to work through letting things and people go.

    At the beginning of 2019, I felt 2018 was my worst year ever but now i see it as a blessing and glad God made me experience raw pain, losses and changes I never saw coming. It got to a point my prayer point became, “Lord Jesus, please be enough for me.”

    Today, God is answering that prayer. When you have God, you have everything. It is in Him you identify and discover the real you and where you can improve on your character too. When God is enough, you will have no expectation of people because it is only God we must trust completely. No one is perfect, so, forgive (they don’t know what they did or are doing) and let God re-write your story and give you a brand new song. Completely surrender all to Him alone.

    Thank you Afiya for another spirit filled message. God bless you and increase you sis.

    1. Afiyasays

      Thank you sis. Glad you loved it.

  5. Leila

    Hey Afiya. Thanks for highlighting this topic. Many people indeed have difficulties to let go of certain things and move on.
    Personally I went through a tough breakup. When it happened I definitely wanted to let go of everything and forget everything. I did not want to hold on to the past but was rather eager to move on. I distanced myself, was angry but little did I know, that breakup was meant to mold me and make stronger.
    I turned to God, and in prayer He guided me to do the right thing in order to heal.
    I can’t help but give glory to God for all. He has showed what to do and as I let go of what used to be I started to see things differently and appreciate every step of that season. #THERE_IS_BEAUTY_IN_ASHES

    1. Afiyasays

      Wow Leila, I love the fact that you tooK to prayer and sort guidance from God. That is the way to go. I also love that amidst the heartbreak you were able to recognize that it made you stronger and let go. That is brave. Thank you so much for sharing and thanks for reading.

    2. Afiyasays

      Wwwwooooowww. Just saw this. Thanks so much for sharing dear. Glory to God for his direction and help.

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